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Fabulous and Fit


Hello, my name is Felicity and I’m about to transition out of my “Dirty 30’s” into the big 31. I still feel as vibrant as I was at 21 though. One thing that will never change is my personality and love for life! I am currently working as a Patient Care Coordinator full time setting up fertility orders for women all over the country who are trying to get pregnant. In the past I have worked as a pharmacy tech and my dream job would be to pursue entrepreneurship and have my own business. Something where I can work when I want, where I want, yet fulfill my creative needs. I am married – we have been together 11 years but married 3. I am a doggy mom of two rascals and I have two stepchildren that we never see. I am a socialite. I feel like I am always on the go. My motto is “I’ll rest when I die”. I’m usually bouncing from work, to the gym, to home, to spontaneous fun with friends. I enjoy talking, listening and just being around other people. My current obligation is first to my health, second to my marriage and third to my friends, family and spending as much time with them as possible. You should never take anything or anyone for granted.

I was a very active child. I cannot remember a time that I was stuck indoors being lazy for a long period of time. I was always out roaming the neighborhood and riding my bike with friends. I grew up with a swimming pool too, so I spent a lot of time pretending I was a mermaid! My mother also put me in jazz and gymnastics early on and I did that for many years. I started with somersaults and hand-stands and ended up doing no-handed cartwheels and front hand springs! I was very good at what I did and very flexible. Although I stayed fairly active – I was always “the bigger girl” around friends or in gym class. I didn’t like sports, mainly because I had stage fright and did not like to be “watched” while performing. So I was more active at home than I was in school. I was just not confident enough, so I shied away from “fitness activities” there.  I grew up on family foods, fast foods and there was no real structure as to what we couldn’t eat. My weight was always brought up during doctor visits and they always tried to give me ideas on how to slim down but I just got bigger over the years. Three years ago I lost 18 lbs and ended up getting pregnant. Unfortunately I miscarried 16 weeks in and haven’t been able to get pregnant since.  I really think that the way I changed my eating habits at that time played a major role in my being able to conceive and so I started my journey to fitness. Initially I wanted to get healthy and become pregnant again. It was only 10 months ago that I finally committed 100% and I am determined to stick it out.

I have never admitted that my weight has held me back in life – but now that I have lost some weight, I find that I have more energy and I’m feeling better about myself; I can finally admit to that. It did hold me back from doing things I have never done before; hiking, canoeing and other physical activities. I also find myself being even MORE social with friends/family when I go out. I don’t mind being in the spotlight as much, I get out on the dance floor and I have more confidence in front of strangers. This journey has also brought me and my husband closer together. I was eating better and exercising for about 5 months before he joined. Now that he’s joined (about 6 months ago) he has lost 40+ lbs! We spend more quality time together hitting the gym every day, taking the dogs for longer walks and cooking healthier meals. We share a new common interest which is rare for us because we are complete opposites.

My “before” pictures keep me motivated on a daily basis. I don’t like to say “after” yet because I am not at my goal. I see those pictures and think, “wow – was I really that big?” Cause at the time I still (for the most part) felt fabulous. But today I feel even MORE fabulous! I can pick clothes out from a regular store without having to go to plus size (went from buying a 3X shirt or pants to being able to squeeze on an XL) and when I look in the mirror I am not trying to hide away my muffin top or change my wardrobe three times in order to feel comfortable and confident. Also, I see other people’s transformations and I know that it’s not impossible. Anything I want, I can achieve with just dedication, hard work, and effort.

Just recently a friend told me, “Felicity you were never the FAT one, you were always the FUNNY one.” Which made me feel good cause I have beautiful friends. Talking drop dead gorgeous, nice bodies, high maintenance ladies and well groomed! And to be honest, I always felt like the “fatter” one among them. Having the same best friends for 15+ years now has helped to keep me going. Not only do I want to prove to myself that I can do this, I want to prove it to them. I wanna be able to walk into my best friend’s house and slip on a pair of her jeans. A few of them have joined along in effort to lose weight and tone up, some of them have been inspired by me to do it and everyone fully supports me! I joined and have currently logged over 300 days straight, counting calories and losing weight with online friends I’ve met. I also started a fan page on Facebook mostly to inspire others on their journey and to document mine as much as possible. In some ways I feel like a celebrity because I have so many people rooting for me, it’s lovely!

Eating out remains the hardest obstacle for me to overcome! I must say that making healthy choices during spontaneous moments can be hard. Especially after a long, busy day when we’re too tired to cook, so we decide to stop at a sub shop. Or if it’s during a party or cook out. I tend to tell myself “today I am going to make a better choice” then when that moment comes and I’m faced with either a salad or a sub – I choose the sub!! It’s almost like an addiction and making an irrational decision. After all is said and done and that moment passes… I regret it. But unlike before, I keep on moving forward now. I will not allow bad choices or small mistakes to deter me away from reaching my ultimate goal.

So far I have lost 43 lbs in less than a year. I’ve dropped over 20 inches through out my body. I have dropped 2 jeans sizes and 3 shirt sizes. My rings are now too big for my fingers and I have taken part in activities I never thought I would before, one which includes a 5k for Susan G Komen with co-workers! I can jog for at least 5 minutes straight without feeling like I might die and I built up endurance for all the cardio machines at the gym and I have earned a passion for weight training too! I normally hit the gym 3-5x per week. At first it was all cardio. I would do a mile on the treadmill, 3 miles on the bike, and a short time on the elliptical. Now I am in love with strength training. So I will spend 15-30 minutes doing free weights or machines. Then 30-60 minutes doing cardio. I have built up my endurance. So I am now able to not only walk on the treadmill but jog in intervals. I can last almost an hour on the elliptical and have recently built up 45 minutes on the Cybex (which is like the elliptical on the moon). I also try set goals and do one new “fitness” activity each month. Recently completing 8 weeks of an intense Bootcamp and this month doing a 5k. For supplements I just take a multi-vitamin and load up on whey protein.

Most mornings I have an iced coffee with a scoop of whey protein or just a whey protein shake made from almond milk. I’m trying to be better at eating every 2-3 hours to keep my metabolism up but because I work in a call center it can be hard. On the days I am home in the morning I try my best to eat breakfast which usually includes eggs and spinach! For snacks I eat fruit, cottage cheese, and nuts. I also love munching on apples & celery with peanut butter too! Lunch could be left overs from the night before or something small like fruit and yogurt or a garden salad. For dinner I eat a lot of raw veggies with chicken. Zone bars, pria bars, and luna bars are also a great meal replacement or post work out snack. I am very enthusiastic about meal planning for the week so I have a “Food Prep Sunday” where I cook and package my food for the next 4-5 days for easy access, it also helps me stay on track 100%.

Before I started this journey at 278 lbs I promised myself that I would lose 100 lbs and get down to 178 lbs. I started in May of 2012 and by December I had lost 33 lbs so at that time my New Year’s Resolution was to double that for 2013 and lose 66 lbs. Which would bring me down -99 lbs. total. I am currently down 43 lbs and look forward to what the rest of the year will bring me. Sometimes I feel like it’s a slow process, but its a work in progress and I am happy with that. Once I reach 178 I will then work on toning as much as possible and if I lose anymore I will stop when I am most comfortable and happy! It almost seems impossible to CHANGE; to make healthier choices and step outside of your comfort zone and exercise regularly. You just have to commit to and just do it! One of the biggest problems people face is screwing up. I want you to know that one bad choice or one bad day does NOT mean that you failed and you have to give up. Every meal, breakfast, lunch, or dinner and EVERY day is a new chance to make a healthier choice and keep going! Put that bad choice in the past and move forward – if you give up then a year from now you will have to start over and you’ll wish you would of just kept going. Slow progress is better than no progress and eventually you WILL be where you want to be!

The numbers on the scale are not the most important. The non-scale victories (us in the weight loss world call them “NSV”) are what’s most important. When you reach a physical or mental goal; when you fit into an old pair of tight jeans;  you discover that it’s the little successes in life that make you most proud. When you compare your fat pics to your progress pics I promise you will see a difference and THAT will motivate you to continue. I just want every man or woman especially to know that it is NEVER too late to change.


In the past year I have been lucky enough to network with people of all different ages and sizes that have been successful no matter what their circumstances, all it takes is just some effort, passion, and dedication!

An Intro to

I have two sons. A five-year old and a one-year old. I’m fiercely protective of them so I never use their names. I’m their Poppa first, and their protector second. They are a big part of why I decided to start They motivate me to show them the importance of health, and the value of a physically strong body. I’ve always had an interest in nutrition and what our body can do, but five years ago when my first son was born it became a full-time thing. The site is a reflection of that.

I was active in sports as a kid, but I wasn’t a great athlete. I’d say a good one, but there were always kids that were bigger, stronger or faster than I was. I developed physically pretty late in that respect. I honestly don’t think I finished filling out until my mid 20’s. I was always pretty skinny. I lifted a little in high school, but not seriously. I was more of a party guy to be honest up until my first son was born!

I was always very interested in learning about fitness. Even when I hadn’t started training with weights at all I understood more than many do that have lifted for years. Nutrition and the body have always been something that I learn about every day of my life. Always have. I used to drive people crazy I bet. I’d know what was in what they were eating, and what their body was doing at a young age. It’s a weird obsession I guess.

I’ve lived a pretty colorful life. Extremely actually. I’m not going into detail, but you can read into that, and you’ll probably be close. Training has replaced the rush that living a certain lifestyle used to provide. The power you feel playing in a band on a stage is something you have to experience to believe. Especially the bigger venues. The monitoring that you get up there, the kick drum almost knocks you over. It’s unreal. Training has become that for me. Sharing what I know about it has become very fulfilling as well. I love the interaction with those that are also passionate.

I aim to live a very long time for my kids. I aim to be very ready for any situation that may arise where I need to be physically on my game on a seconds notice for my kids. I live for my kids. My partner Amy, and my kids are my whole world. They are the greatest motivation I could ever need. I think my fitness life is something they are used to. It’s all my kids have ever known. I’m sure I drive them nuts with it too! My kids don’t get spanked-they do push-ups. Really. 

Self doubt, and fear are the obstacles that we as human beings must all overcome. My fondest memories of fitness are just beginning! I am meeting incredible people throughout this journey so far-you know who you are! I aim to be around a long while. I have a very long plan already mapped and I’m staying the course. I’m up at five am, 7 days a week, to train. That may be outdoors, that may be in the gym. I train as hard as my body lets me. Sometimes I go ballistic, sometimes I coast.  I do a lot of circuit training, sprints, and core. I did a 10 minute plank today. That’s common. My meal plan changes quite often. I’m very big on whey concentrate, water, peanut butter, and molasses. That’s the ‘meal’ that I eat usually three times a day. The food part of my diet changes. Sometimes no carbs, sometimes a lot. I’m a feast or famine guy. Carbs are a supplement to me. Load up and grow, cut back and get lean. 

 My goals are to take as far as I can. I want to have it be sustainable in the near future. There’s a plan, and I follow it. Amy-@MrsToronto1 does everything to do with the site. She is constantly working on it. We’re getting ready to do something with it soon, so it’s a constant job for her. Carlos Flores has done an amazing job with researching various articles, and has really started to develop as a writer himself. Lately some of the posts have been entirely written by him. He has a bright future ahead of him. Andrew Young is someone who has been working with me since day one in a few different capacities. He really got my writing abilities up to speed very quickly. We’re working on a few other things now that will be surfacing sooner or later. Video is in development now also. I’m a bit of a perfectionist so until it’s where I know it can be, it will continue to be a work in progress.

My motto is ‘love the training, enjoy the results’. I think that says it all. You need to find a reason to love anything you’re going to make part of your life. If it’s a chore, you won’t last long.  There is no excuse not to take care of yourself-ever. We all are worth it, so get up, get going, and go get what’s yours!

Thanks for reading.

Matt,, @MattToronto1, these are the places I’m connected to 24/7/365.